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Sheila's avatar

I really connect with this! Although gratitude as a word doesn't provoke a reaction the way it seems to for you, the sentiments behind it does. I find it so hard when I share the difficulties I've faced these last four years (and some I just didn't have a name for them), to be met with 'you have to focus on the positives' when really it just plain poop what's going on. Reading this I thought the next time someone retaliates with toxic positivity I could meet it with 'I need my struggles recognising before I can focus on the positive positive'. Or words to that effect.

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Amber Horrox's avatar

So much love and appreciation for this post ! 🙏🙏 I’ve been trying to connect so much with my own journey and put together all pieces that I hope make up a complete puzzle and this has helped a little with my experience of gratitude - thank you, thank you thank you. Nearly 3 years in to waking up to disability by chronic ill health and embarking some kind of journey I didn’t even realise I was on to begin with, I realised that there were so many days that I actually felt “ok”. Some days I even felt good. Yes, there were 6 bed-bound days (down from 24) and 10 days I could get up but little else as I was still very unwell. But I realised I was really ok with feeling ok and this was good enough for me. Only then when I was comfortable with how I was feeling did I start a gratitude practice each night before sleep. Gratitude for the blue skies and sunshine out my bedroom window, for the clothes on my back, the walk I had taken, the food I had eaten, the friends I saw/spoke to. The whole experience was a real door opener to joy and I started telling people exactly how I felt (and still do - another healing). Previously I used to say “yeah I’m good thanks” even when I was in pain and suffering. Now I say it exactly as it is and gratitude is often a state of being for me (but so it tiredness, not feeling my best self, and any other feelings I may be happening to feel). I’ve also noticed a similar thing with the word appreciation and find myself using that word too x

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