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Sheila's avatar

Oh wow this makes my blood boil, it’s no coincidence that medical issues affecting women are more often diagnosed as mental health problems. The old fashioned theory of hysteria still ingrained in today’s world.

In my opinion the diagnosis of ‘it’s in your head’ (which I’d like to say the mind is a complex thing and I do believe there are big connections however...) is laziness, pure laziness. None of the descriptions above, or my experiences, have lead to help at all. Be it with my physical symptoms or my supposed psychological issues (I do have psychological issues but most stem from my physical issues).

I had a doctor once tell me I experience pain as I copied my mum (who has a different chronic pain condition) and I experienced more pain because I was a woman. I said, okay, suppose that is the case what can we do about it? Can you refer me to a psychologist? The answer is no, because the pain isn’t from my head. It isn’t from our heads!

Honestly a topic that gets me angry, for me and for you and for all the other people who are the hands of this ignorance.

We are our own best doctors, we know what works and what doesn’t. We know what is healing and what worsens. In all my experiences, and reading yours, we are our own best experts 💚

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Martha's avatar

I am SO sorry about the experience you had in the hospital. It makes me so angry, I know how unbelievably horrible that experience must be for you even to this day. I have definitely had experiences of being told me recurrent utis were in my head! And now I have a chronic uti that has made me house bound for 3 years! If I wasn’t dismissed and treated properly it’s likely I wouldn’t be in this position today. It’s incredibly concerning how quick doctors are to dismiss any health issues and blame it on hysteria. It’s incredibly stressful to be on the receiving end of. I was once told to be braver by a doctor and I ended up flaring for months with the dismissal and accusation I wasn’t being brave and I needed to take my chronic health issues elsewhere.

My friend who also has cUTI recently requested all of her medical notes for something she needed and in that contained all the emails between doctors saying she’s hysterical and making up her utis and seeks attention. She is now bedbound like me. I don’t even remotely want to access and read the emails that are on my notes. That’s a Pandora’s box I’ll leave closed.

The entire worlds approach to chronic conditions it’s disgusting - especially ME/CFS and now LC. My mum had LC (recovered mostly now) and the amount of times she was also told to do the graded exercise to help heal is nuts. So horrified at those cases from Denmark - thank you for sharing & writing this. Xx

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